WHY IDRIS ELBA GAVE SABRINA EVERYTHING HE REFUSED TO GIVE K MICHELLE
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I watched K Michelle's interview with Hollywood Unlocked and I'm here again to reiterate what I said earlier this month.
So, K Michelle dated Idris Elba for about a year in 2014.
He pursued her, asked her out and they dated.
When they started dating, he told K Michelle he only does private relationships. Everybody he dates must agree to a private relationship cos he doesn't want unnecessary publicity in his private life. So that means they won't be seen together. No pictures, no outings, etc.
They didn't go anywhere together. Didn't go to lunch together let alone awards.
K Michelle was on Love and Hiphop and a newbie in the music industry so the mere rumour that she was dating Idris would have done WONDERS for her career but she kept it extremely private cos that's how he wanted it. She didn't disagree because she didn't want him to think she's an opportunist.
While this was going on, he was dating other women. Running around with plenty other women. That was even the period he had a new baby mama.
Blogs would post him with other women and when K Michelle confronted him, he said he would never be committed to one woman. He would always have multiple women and would never get married. It's just who he is.
She took it all in and continued dating him.
They eventually broke up later.
3 years later, this Idris that said he would never be committed to one woman and wanted only private relationships met Sabrina and they started dating. A few months into their dating, he started going to public events with his girlfriend Sabrina. Going to film festivals with her, movie premieres, everything.
Sabrina had never done red carpets before then. Idris said so himself. Yet it didn't stop him. He wanted her to be by his side all through award season.
This person said he couldn't go to dinner nkiti with K Michelle cos of privacy o. But dey carries his new girlfriend to international award shows and snaps loved-up pictures on the red carpet.
Piampianom Liam wanted an extremely private relationship and cannot be committed to one woman, PUBLICLY PROPOSED to his girlfriend. Public proposal at a cinema for a movie screening in the presence of hundreds of people.
The irony is almost unbelievable.
The same Idris that said he would never get married again, married Sabrina in a loud, extravagant, 3-day wedding in Morocco. He threw an opulent, Moroccan destination wedding for her.
Same Idris that was adamant about keeping his relationship with K Michelle a big secret, flaunted and still flaunts his woman every chance he gets. From social media to real life. He posts her more than she posts him.
Itith her at yesterday's Oscars that reminded me to make this post. Doing joint interviews every chance he gets with her.
Idris even has a fvcking PODCAST with his wife where they talk about their relationship. Yes o. The podcast is called Coupledom. This is the guy that was so insistent on a private relationship and wouldn't let K Michelle tell anyone even though it would have helped her career.
Apart from the podcast, he co-owns several businesses with her. Yup. They have businesses TOGETHER.
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Now, am I saying Idris is a bad man?
Yes/no
He's a regular a§§, average aśś, Level 2 man. The kind of man that will be eye to one woman if she allows it, and loyal to another if she puts her foot down and sets her standards right.
K Michelle by her n said several times that she suffered (don't know if she still does) from low self-esteem. It was so bad she got a lot of work done. She was desperate to be with men that she'd agree to be whatever they wanted.
She said she found out she was the "side chick" while dating Idris and still stayed. I don't even blame her because a lot of women would be so starstruck they'd still stay.
Using Sabrina and K Michelle as a case study, you can see that while K Michelle was willing to bend to suit Idris, Sabrina stood her ground.
She refused to be hidden.
Refused to be the side chick or a part of a harem.
Refused to take the "I will never get married or committed to one woman" BS.
Since they got together today, Idris has never been seen saying hi to any woman ya foduzie dating multiple women. Because he probably knows Sabrina would leave him before he can say guv'nor.
I know it looks like he was an absolute a§s to one woman, then met another woman and "changed". But no, she didn't change him. He had the potential to be that man all along. It just so happened that the women he met let him coast.
They agreed to share him. Agreed to be kept private. Agreed to look the other way while he cheats.
Till this one didn't.
So again I say, a man can be 2 different things to different women. The things you allow/tolerate for peace to reign or so you'll have him, is what will bite you in the bum.
Another woman will reject those things and have an enviable relationship with that same man. You'll now be asking what she has you don't have. Or if she used kalamata.
Long story short, standards and self-esteem is a must.
By Ijeoma Chinonyerem
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