THE IGNORANCE OF THOSE WHO BLAME YOU FOR STICKING TO AN ABUSIVE PARTNER

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 Counseling And Therapy With             Linda Zannaffe Omoluabi



THE IGNORANCE OF THOSE WHO BLAME YOU FOR STICKING TO AN ABUSIVE PARTNER

Those who blame you for staying with an abusive partner do so out of ignorance. They are oblivious of the fact that you truly wish to leave but lack the will. You, the victim of abuse do not enjoy the repeated violation of your person and wish to leave, but you find yourself not having the strength to do so. 

Truth is that you are also ignorant of why you are this way. You are sad that you continue to stay and tolerate abuse. 

You want to know the truth? You suffer from what is known as subconscious conditioning. A condition which makes you get into situations which in your own peculiar case does not favour you. That is why you agree to date, marry or stick with people who treat you badly ( abusive partners) even though the signs known as red flags are there. You got this way by watching your mother (if you are a lady) tolerate abuse from your father or witnessing your father (if you are a man) tolerate abuse from your mother all through your childhood and  you have being conditioned subconsciously to also tolerate abuse from your romantic partner. The striking truth is that you are not even aware of this. Another striking truth is the fact that even when you become aware you can hardly disconnect from this conditioning all by yourself. You will need the help of a professional who is schooled and trained in the art of recognizing the pattern of abus and disconnecting victims to help you. 


When people insult you for sticking to an abusive partner understand now with this eye opener that they do not understand the dynamics, that is, they do not know what process is at work. 


As for you, understand with this eye opener why you tend to attract and stick with abusive partners and seek the help of an expert to help you.


Linda Zannaffe Omoluabi is a family/relationship Therapist.

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