WHAT DENZEL WASHINGTON TOLD WILL SMITH AFTER THE SLAP

WHAT DENZEL WASHINGTON TOLD WILL SMITH AFTER THE SLAP

 "At your highest moment, be careful. That's when the devil comes for you.”

Denzel Washington shared these words with Will Smith last night at the Oscars, after Will went up on stage and slapped Chris Rock because of the comments Chris made about WIll's wife. 

Then when back in his seat, Will said repeated "Keep my wife's name out of your f%ckin' mouth."

Later in the show, Will got his first Oscar. In his acceptance speech he was in tears. He compared himself to the role he played and said "I look like a crazy father ..." 

He also said "Love will make you do crazy things"

A lot of people, including me, were more focused on trying to understand what happened about the now infamous "slap" instead of his Oscar win. 

I started to research and people online were speculating he was still upset with Chris Rock making a joke about his wife years ago. 

That "they may have issues in their marriage". 

We will never really know what really happened in Will's mind to prompt his actions. We don't know if he regrets it and would do it differently in hindsight. 

Here is what I do know for sure ... 

"EMOTIONS can make us do crazy things"

And if we do not lead ourselves and proactive about processing + expressing our emotions in healthy, safe ways as they arise ... 

We are actively REPRESSING them. 

When our emotions build up, they will need to be expressed. And in this situation, they were expressed through physical action towards another person. 

I believe this is a main contribution to the saying "He/She went postal", when people see "red" and do things they admit they regret. 

Circling back to Will -

If Will is having trouble in his marriage ...

Or a stressful day before the Oscars ...

Anxiety with the nomination ...

Stress with his family ...

Worried about his family or his health ... 

Frustrated because he got cut off in traffic ...

Any number of these things can build up if we are not doing our part to process them consistently. And inevitable explode when that last thing happens that "broke the camel's back".

Now there are people labeling him on one moment in time that was on camera for the world to see ... 

Is that truly him? We may never know. 

That one moment in time is creating questions online ...

"Will they take away his Oscar?"

"Will it be harder for him to get roles now?"

"He is a violent man. Does he do this at home?"

And the list goes on and on. 

Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of us who tend to repress, avoid or bypass our emotions and wounding... myself included. 

But, there is a solution. 

If Will had the EA method, the moment he felt his emotion which triggered the slap heard around the world, he could have used the Energy Expansion tool to quickly and safely process his emotion in moments. 

Then from a space of clarity, he could have used the Inner Wisdom tool or Clarity Activation tool to tap into his inner truth of what his next right step was. What was the healthiest, safest and most respectful way to speak his truth and honor his wife, protect his family. 

And if it was to get up and slap him, he could take full, radical ownership of his action because it came from responding to his inner wisdom, alignment to his values instead of reacting from his emotions. 

Having a way to regularly <my clients and I do the EA work daily> to process our emotions - that is emotional self mastery. 

It does not have to take hours ... it can be done in minutes. 

We clean our homes, take showers to clean our body ... but most of us were never told how to clean our emotions, which is just as important. 

The EA method is the only toolkit we will ever need to rapidly process our emotions, our own way. On our own terms. It doesn't need to take hours, it can be done in minutes.

I would love to offer the EA method to Will if he wants a toolkit to deepen his emotional self mastery. 

While I don't condone physical violence, I can definitely relate to Will. I have been there before. And it woke me up to figure out my shit because I did not want to be the person who was not able to handle my emotions in a respectful and responsible way. 

Disclaimer: I do not know Will Smith, nor claim to know what he is thinking. I am sharing my observation of what I know of him from his social presence.

What are your thoughts about what happened?