MY HUSBAND IS A GREAT MAN BUT, I LOVE MY LESBIAN PARTNER AND WANT TO MARRY HER

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 MY HUSBAND IS A GREAT MAN BUT I LOVE MY LESBIAN PARTNER AND WANT TO MARRY HER

Hello,

I need some real advice! I’ve been with my Husband for about 9 years. We have been married the past 4 years. My Husband is what I like to call a renaissance Man, because he’s clever, great at many things, he’s loyal, wonderful provider, caring, loving, and many more. He’s a needle and a haystack and loves me so much. When we first started dating I also had started dating women without his knowledge. Nothing never serious with the ladies, more like a curiosity. I eventually stopped when we got married 4 years ago. So last year I began working on the road, which kept me from home 3-4 days a week. That curiosity came back, so I downloaded this lesbian app and met this beautiful woman. We immediately linked up in about two days. She came to my hotel wearing this sexy fitted dress and standing about 6 feet tall, looking like a sweet Poundcake and I wanted a bite. We went out for drink and came back to my room and it went down. What started out to be just a hookup turned into several hookups 8 months later and We both have fallen in love. I even proposed to her and gave her this beautiful diamond ring. It has gotten so messy that she has been calling my husband and telling him everything. It’s my fault because I led her to believe that I’m divorcing him and that he knows all about us. I used fake divorce court documents to try and convince her I was telling the truth. I purchased a house in the state I travel in to also convince her that my husband and I is over, but I’ve been lying and it’s caught up with me. Her lease is up in a few months and the house that I purchased I led her to believe that it was for me, her and her two kids. She help with the decorations, surveillance, etc…. The week of Christmas she caught my Husband at that house and she came banging on the door. She’s fed up and had enough. I’ve hurt her so bad, and I do want her back. I do want to spend the rest of my life with her, but it’s so hard for me to leave my husband. He said he forgives me. How can I divorce the man that’s been nothing but great to me. I’m unhappy in my marriage, but I do love him just not in love. I’m in love with her. I’m willing to be unhappy the rest of my life to keep him happy and it’s not fair too me. What should I do? I’m devastated and broken 

COUNSELOR'S RESPONSE: This is extremely messy but my advice is simple. You need to get a divorce. You didn’t mention having kids with him and I hope that is not the case. You are in love with someone else and gave her a ring. You went to great lengths with your lies and even though your husband knows, your heart is not in your marriage. Good luck.