HELP! MY NANNY IS PREGNANT FOR MY WEALTHY FATHER IN-LAW

HELP ! MY NANNY IS PREGNANT FOR MY WEALTHY FATHER IN-LAW

Good evening ma, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female. Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness. 

 He lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cooks and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know. 

March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible. When I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

 I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up instructing me not to talk to her like that because she was not a child.  Imagine my own house help!

 When my husband spoke to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her. 

Mogbe!! 

I said over my dead body, my own maid? Instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father happy, he has his support.

By the way, the house we live in was built by my father in-law, it's a duplex. As at the point of writing this, my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny's dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't believe my father in-law stoopef so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now married to his father therefore I should be calling her Aunty mi, and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her mummy. When I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes. 

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do? The truth is that I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex and papa can't leave either because he wants to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice ma. Thanks. Married for 10 years.

Below is the advice she got from Linda Zannaffe Omoluabi( Marriage/relationship therapist and Founder/President, Initiative Against Dysfunction In Families.

COUNSEL

Madam, anyone with empathy will understand how you feel,  however, a discerning person will immediately see that you are a person who looks down on people who are not materially blessed. 

Ask yourself why you are so grief stricken because your nanny married your wealthy father in-law and you will find out that you only think she is not good enough just because she is materially disadvantaged. You may look down on her, but God does not look down on her but has great plans for and that is what is materialising before you.

If you objected to the union because you have observed some adverse traits in your nanny, that will be a good reason for your father in-law to tread with caution, but you have not given any reason why she is not qualified to be your father in-law's better half other than the fact that she is "your nanny". 

Do you wish your fellow human being not to rise in life just because they are humble enough to accept the menial job you offered them? This is a young lady of  32 who must have stooped to do a job she otherwise would not do if Nigeria was a better country and was rewarded by God for her humility.  Please accept the fact that God has rewarded her humility.

If God deems her fit for wealth who is a mortal to question God?

Please be happy for her and your lonely father in-law who has found a worthy companion and adjust to the situation. Any attempt to spew hate towards her will be disrespectful to your father in-law and will jeopardize your marriage. Be warned! 

By the way start looking for another nanny.

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